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Why Russian Women Want to be Dating Foreign Men

August 12, 2008 russian brides
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When it comes to Russian women dating, the stereotype is all Russian women are scammers and only want to be dating foreign men for their money?

So goes the generalisation about why Russian women want to be dating foreigners. Obviously this is false. There are so many thousands of success stories that so overwhelm the bad stories. So what motivates a Russian woman to find a man in another country?

The big myth is Russia women are all scammers out to get your money, or that they live a life of abject poverty and are desperate to get out. This isn’t it. In a nutshell, there is a shortage of good quality men in Russia.

Lets have a bit of a closer look.

(a) Demographics. There is a gender imbalance in Russia meaning there are more women than men. Why? I’m not too sure of all the reasons, but Russian men have a comparatively low life expectancy which has at least something to do with it.

(b) Quality. A lot of Russian men take advantage of this gender imbalance to act like dicks. They can get away with acting badly as it is essentially a ‘sellers market’ for men. This creates an even smaller pool of available and desirable men.

(c) Stability. Russia has a long history of instability, so stability is very attractive. Thus a decently paid, steady job is very attractive.

What there is a shortage of is intelligent, kind, honest men with good jobs. This doesn’t mean there aren’t any good quality men in Russia. On the contrary, there are of course millions and millions. There just aren’t quite enough of them.

Don’t be mistaken however. Your country (especially a warm climate) and income are attractive to Russian women, and hypergamy (the practice of selecting a spouse of higher socio-economic status than oneself) is prevalent everywhere in the world.

So these are factors. But in themselves they wouldn’t be enough for such large numbers of Russian women to be eager for a foreign husband. It is the reasons above which tip them over into wanting a foreign husband.

There are some scammers – maybe 1%. But they are very easy to spot so aren’t a big concern.

For the great majority of Russian women interested in dating foreign men, the reasons and intentions are good.

Russian Mail Brides – Scammers Guide Part 2

August 11, 2008 Russia Women Guides / Russian Bride Scams
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This is part 2 of our guide to scammers and Russian mail brides.

Type 3. The Long Con

This type of scam I’m not even certain actually exists today (I know of no recent confirmed cases). But it may exist and I guess has existed in other contexts for time immemorial so its worth having a quick look.

This scam involves a woman feigning interest in a man for enough time, and with enough conviction, so that she eventually gains a western passport and/or half the mans money.

My own view on this is that it ‘takes two to tango’. That for it to work there has to be a man whose character at the time in some way allows for it to happen. I say that if somebodies character is like this, that type of victimization can just as easily happen with the woman next door.

There is a lot of wealth in Russia today and there is no great reason for a woman skillful and dedicated enough to pull off such a thing to turn her attention outside Russia.

I could go into a lot of pondering here (using a lot of cod-pschology) into whether this scam exists all the time -  its just the participants refuse to admit it to themselves that it is a scam.

Do ‘relationships of convenience occur’? Yes, but that is very different to a deliberate scam.

Instead lets keep it short.

With one or two exceptions, every woman I met was completely genuine.

So basically in my opinion
- The chances of this Long Con happening are
(a) Incredibly small
(b) About the same as whether you are looking for a wife in Russia or looking in the next street. So finding a Russian mail bride is just as risky as any other relationship.

Conclusion

If you use a little bit of common sense, you have nothing to worry about when it comes to scammers. The vast majority of Russian women are genuine and if you use quality websites, you should have nothing to worry about.

In my own experience I only ever encountered one Type 1 (very easy to spot), one Type 2 (I lost about $20 and was foolish) and nothing would surprise me more were I to find myself in a Type 3 ;)

So my advice is don’t worry. You’ll be fine. Do it. Finding a Russian mail bride that is perfect for you is pretty much the best thing you can do.


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